Building a Bridge to the Disowned Aspects of Ourselves
I’ve been thinking a lot about how feeling deeply supported allows us to take a deep, slow breath, to regulate our nervous system. The physical posture of back support, whether internally from the musculature of the back, or externally from a secure surface, allows the more vulnerable parts of our system, such as the belly and the heart to soften and slow. Physical pleasure and cell replenishment are the result.
It is from this place that we have the resources available to us to heal. Our attention moves from logical control to sensation-based awareness. This is the state our bodies speaks to us. When we slow our system to notice our sensations and become aware of this very moment as it is right now, we are presented with the unintegrated aspects of our selves requesting to be integrated.
Those unintegrated aspects show up as discomfort; they deem themselves important enough to keep us from our state of rest. This is the way a bit of healthy stress is motivating for change; it’s enough stress to get our attention. We might notice a twitch in the body and a call from the mind to entertain a series of thoughts which hope to protect us from facing aspects which we have thus far denied or have been too sensitive to see.
This is when it’s important to remember support, both internal and external.
We want to know, is it safe to face this aspect of the self?
Where will this recognition take me?
Will I be alone and will I survive?
Will it be worth the discomfort?
We may find a more integrated place within us or we may find another human whom we trust to hold us in that journey.
Support allows incredible wisdom to be revealed. The inner knowing we hold in our bodies; the data our nervous system has gathered from not only our lifetimes but from our entire DNA progression has a voice that is relevant to our lives in the present moment.
The relationships in our inner worlds function much the way the relationships of our outer worlds function. To build a bridge we soften, listen, grieve, open, respect boundaries and build trust. Healing is a way of life that shows up in our bodies and is reflected in all of our relationships.
What relationships are you interested in healing?
What internal and external supports do you rely upon?